Write, draw, paint, or free associate what comes to you when you think of your ancestors- starting with your own parents. What colors come to mind? What words? What stories? When you have taken some time for yourself (if you need it), share it with your partner. Ask them to reflect back what they heard you say. This will help you to really hear what you shared and will help your partner to really understand some of your family’s history. Is there a particular challenge you can hear? Do you see any gifts or strengths? Share those, too. And then trade roles.
Consider having a dialogue with ancestors who have crossed over and asking for their blessing and guidance for the new soul coming in. Some couples have a regular practice of including ancestors. If this doesn’t appeal to you and your partner, just having awareness of their impact is a good start.